by CARMEL BRULEZ 05/22/2023

Falling in love can be a wonderful thing, it can also be a curse. It depends on how well you can handle your emotions, how well you can make decisions, how mature you are and who you fall in love with. I’ve met clients who have consulted me because their life is upside down, a mess, a misery, because of love and others who are walking on air with a non stop smile glowing in self satisfaction because of it. Of course when a client consults a relationship expert, psychic, therapist or counsellor it tends to be because they are unhappy and have a problem rather than because everything is going well. So us professionals do not get many of the happiest most sorted people consulting us, we often get those who are at the end of their tether with worry or misery instead.

In some cases the solution to their problem is simple but the client does not want to acknowledge it or act upon it. If a woman is regularly dating a guy who beats her up and physically abuses her, or is constantly criticising her, or is threatening her, stealing her money, gambling, drinking a lot or some other form of abuse which would make the partner miserable on a daily basis there are few options. The best option is usually to end the relationship altogether and walk away. But getting the client to see this and act upon it can be difficult or impossible. Clients often believe that if they take their problem to a therapist or psychic this is all they need to do. The therapist or psychic will wave a magic wand over the whole thing and transform their man into a much nicer man! There are online psychics, tarot card readers, therapists and counsellors too. new age directory

Falling in love with a normal, decent, sane, kind person is a totally different thing. It is a blessing. One of the most wonderful things you can experience and part of that wonder is that the relationship can grow and solidify, it can become more concrete and it can become more rich as time goes on. The relationship may begin as two people dating, then there is the bit where they start to really like each other, this eventually leads to the falling in love bit where both of them start to take it more seriously and think about a future together.

The snag that can happen at this point is that they both want different things. The man may think that seeing her twice a week is great while she is thinking of having children with him or living together or getting married. He may want to take things one day at a time and have her as part of his life and future rather than all of it. She may be wanting a ring on her finger, to make her feel secure and loved, promises, commitments and a lot more time with him. There may be the need for understanding and compromise towards each other. Which is good because this tests how close they really are and how well they can get on for many years in the future. If something as simple as this can cause arguments and rows and a split then many other things can too. If a couple are going to end up splitting up and not being able to be suited it is best to find this out at the start not after having a baby or buying a home together when it is much more difficult to free agony aunt advice with and sort out.

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