By Katie Lance December 26, 2017

If you are a in a relationship then it’s more than likely that occasionally you will experience some problems. This is completely healthy and if you claim to have never argued or disagreed then perhaps neither of you are being true to yourselves or to each other.

There is however, a difference between a ‘normal’ arguments from those which are built on deep seated resentment, built up over the years. That’s when the help of an unbiased third party can help get you talking effectively in order to understand each other’s perspectives.

A vast majority of problems in a relationship can be solved through marriage counselling and the help of a well-trained relationship professional. The below are some examples of why your relationship might benefit from Relationship Counselling Kent.

1. Communication Has Broken Down

Perhaps you arguments have reached such a level that you barely speak or perhaps have stopped talking altogether – you are in a stalemate situation. With the help of a therapist you can learn to communicate effectively and productively and get your relationship back on track

2. Negativity

When there is negativity in a relationship, one or both parties can feel judged, criticised and may withdraw altogether. It’s not only negative words that cause problems but also the tone of the conversation. It is not about what you say but about how you say it!

3. Withholding Affection

Sometimes, when relationships breakdown and couples start to resentful and angry, this can lead to one or both withholding affection. This is often demonstrated by giving the silent treatment to the other party. If one partner acts like a punisher or a parent, there is lack of balance in the relationship.

4. Seeing Your Partner as an Antagonist

If you feel that you and your partner are just not on the same page anymore and are on different sides so it feels like a battle, it is the right time to seek help from a couple counsellor at Relationship Counselling Kent.

5. Contemplating an Affair

Are you considering having an affair? Are you fantasising about what it might be like with somebody else? This is a signal that something is very wrong. It is possible for a relationship to survive an affair, but it’s wise to seek professional help before that happens. If both of you are open to the therapy process and you are honest with yourself and your partner, the relationship can be saved.

6. Financially Unfaithful

Financial infidelity can often be more damaging to a relationship than it is to a sexual affair. If one partner keeps his/her spouse in the dark about their financial spending, then it brings about suspicion and trust going forward. An experienced therapist can help you calmly discuss this sometimes difficult subject.

7. Changes in Sex Life

Sex is a hierarchy of need in any relationship. It is however not unusual for sex to taper off after you have been together for a while. However, significant changes in the bedroom are signs that something is not right. An increase in sex can also be a warning sign.

Couples often want until the rot has well and truly set in their relationship before the seek marriage counselling. However, the sooner you nip any problems in the bud, the sooner you will get your relationship back on track. Our professionally qualified Relationship Counsellors at Relationship Counselling Kent can help you do just that.