By David Samuel   April 11, 2020

When you get to know somebody and all is good, love and affection builds, a desire to be with them builds, but sometimes that fades with the chemistry and passion. Love that lasts, builds with respect and admiration for that person, for who they really are.

But sometimes, something pulls us away, that shuts down our heart and makes us lose interest when we see something that creates doubt and fear. That’s where the love and all the positive feelings get cut and broken.

Love is a natural state for a human being. We all desire to have someone to love. Our natural inclination is to fall in love. When we meet someone that we like, we are automatically drawn to love them, unless there is something that turns us off.

When you find someone you really like, to keep the relationship with the one you feel is ‘the one’, you can’t turn them off or push them away.

That does not mean you should fake it, but rather that you should become a person who is naturally not doing things which create fear in anyones mind.

By working on your self, to make yourself someone who does not act in a selfish or narrow minded or emotionally unstable manner, or being hyper sensitive and easily offended, we can keep love when we find it.

Become someone who naturally is the most attractive person by not doing things to create a fear of; ‘Oh my God, what will this person be in the future.’

You can dress well and put on perfume, but eventually you are seen for who you are. That needs to be a person worthy of the love you seek.

Basically we are saying to not do things that push someone away rather than overly focused on doing things to be loved. Of course, both is better.

EXERCISE

Step 1 List all the things that turn you off. Arrogance, egoistic, short tempered, easily offended, emotionally delicate, etc. are just some of the qualities that make a physically attractive person become very unattractive. Make your list without filtering, just list anything that you feel is a turn off, mentally, emotionally and physically.

Step 2 Sincerely look at yourself and make an objective observation of yourself for the next two to three weeks. Is there anything about yourself that needs to change? How many of the things on your list in Step 1 are you guilty of doing?

Have no fear if you are faced with an ugly reality. Anything in your personality can change because you were not born the way you are now. Humans are born pretty much like a blank slate, we get formed by the events in our life. All characteristics can be changed if you really want to. The question is, how much do you want to have that Love that lasts a Lifetime?

A beautiful soul, in an average or less than average body, can have a long line of suitors. After all, love that lasts a lifetime will long outlive our physical attractiveness.

The part of yourself that wants to share a life of love and passion through to old age needs to be what you polish, far more than photoshopping your selfies.

Every human being has a pure heart, it just takes effort and willingness to let go of the past so the scars heal instead of putting them out there on the next one you meet and scaring them away.

The exercise in this article will help you to change so much, in a short time you will become so attractive that every one you date will want to stay with you forever.

After decades of helping people resolve their relationship issues, both in current and past relationships, and helping people find that new and lasting love, David Samuel is now available to world, on line, to share his wisdom and experiences. https://relationshipcoachonline.com/

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