In life, we are all faced with challenges as parents and kids. However, through those challenges we are forced to find some positive energy. It is often hidden, but it is there.  Adversity can sometimes help us find that blind spot of optimism that disappears every so often

I had just dropped out of college in the first quarter after 4 weeks back in 1989. The good news was I did return and ultimately went to graduate school. However, none of that means much and the schooling taught me very little, however Doug taught me everything that I need today.

In 1989 my father got a call from his homesick son in college and opted to drive 7 hours and pick him up and drive back all in the same day. We got home late that night and my father firmly stated “get up at 6:30am because we need to hit the southside”. I had no idea where we were going, but I was certain it was yet another life experience. If you have not figured it out already my father spoiled me with “life lessons” and another one was on the way. This one was very different and has changed me eternally.

The next morning bright and early we promptly left the house and drove to the southside to visit one of my father’s clients (Doug). Doug was in an auto accident which left him with no ability to ever walk again or have use of anything but the movement of his neck. That was it….just his neck.

I sat in a chair inches from Doug and never ever uttered any words. I noticed that he showed confidence and zero fear of his situation. He was on his way to medical school and now had practically become a medical study for life. However, the medical study was coming from me and not lab rats. How could a man in such a tough spot in life remain optimistic and display happiness. Doug did all of that and more. He was a big black handsome man with brilliance pouring out of his good soul. I left that first meeting never saying much, but was inspired to move on with my life and get back to school. My father wanted me to see being homesick was not so bad and in the same vein see being confined to a bed still allowed happiness. Dad wanted me to see that even the dark side has bright lights and big smiles. Doug had all of that and more. Doug gave me the right to become a man very quickly and build tough leather around my skin. It was about living and living the best you can no matter what the situation is in life or what it may become.

Today Doug is one of my closest friends and I learn something from him each day. He protects and guides me and doesn’t even know it. I think Doug for shaping me in ways I could not shape myself. Amazing so much we learn from others.

By Bradley D. Weisman
bweisman@inthesport.net

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